Why Modest Men Get the Brush Off From Women: Stasis Theory and Major Rhetorical Argument

       The issue of modesty amongst the sexes is one that will stand the tests of time, simply because the argument is valid during any time period. We see the issue as something irrelevant to our lives, that is, until we are older and start to seriously date. The issue of a lack in modesty stems from our forefathers and their fathers as well. For centuries women have worn more clothing than men as a way to diminish their sexuality, leave more to the imagination and to conform because of customs. As time has progressed we have started to see a decrease in fabric in women’s clothing and an increase in men’s fabric based on trends. In the 1960’s we begin to notice somewhat of a rebellion amongst the sexes regarding clothes and trends. Those trends and fads of the 1960’s have played a major role in style today and more specifically, gender roles.

         I’m sure we have all had a conversation with our girlfriends about how we want our dream guy to have manners and be so respectful that he just woos us off of our feet and we live happily ever after. The issue with this idea is that it is actually not truly what we want from guys. Research has shown that women prefer cocky and sometimes even more affront counterparts. In the article we learn that women see men who are more modest as feminine and weak, therefore deeming modest men unattractive compared to those who lack modesty and are more callous in their mannerisms. It is apparent that there exists a disconnection between what women say they want but what women report they truly want out of male counterpart. Even though the study is only done in regards to the workplace characteristics employers prefer; the study correlates to daily life and relationships. According to the article, males who reported as modest also reported as single. If the topic of modesty plays such a role that it keeps people apart, controls employment opportunities and threatens self expression, then it is not worth the fight. Everyone is entitled to self expression and until people are freely expressing themselves modesty will continue to slight the sexes.

        In combating the issue of modesty amongst the sexes we have to look at what matters in the long run. Modesty correlates to attraction and if modesty is so influential on the minds of people, we should simply allow people to continue to gravitate towards whatever it is that attracts them; eventually someone will find a modest man attractive. Essentially both women and men control who they date and employers control whom they employ, so in the future we will continue to see differing opinions on the topic of modesty but we will also see the conferring between both sexes on the issue of modesty.

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